Dealing with an abrasive boss requires calm strategy and self-protection. If you’re replaying conversations in your head—wondering what you should have said—it’s a sign your system is working overtime. Dealing with an abrasive boss  can chip away at confidence because the goalposts feel unclear and the tone feels sharp. You may not be able to change their personality, but you can protect your performance, reputation, and well-being. What Abrasive Behavior Often Looks Like Imp